The myth of vaginal "looseness" is a damaging belief that suggests that a woman's vagina can become stretched out or "loose" from sexual activity or childbirth.
This myth is based on sexist attitudes that base a woman's sexual value on how “tight” their vagina is. These ideas have led to women being shamed and judged for their supposed looseness, which can lead to feelings of shame, insecurity, and even sexual dysfunction.
It's important to bust this myth because it simply isn't true. The vagina is a highly elastic and adaptable organ that can change shape and size depending on a variety of factors, including arousal, childbirth, and menopause. Plus, the idea that a woman's worth is tied to the tightness of her vagina is ridiculous, harmful, and perpetuates a culture of shame and stigma surrounding women's sexuality.
One related issue that's worth mentioning here is the practice of the "husband stitch." Put simply this is where the doctor adds an extra stitch in the woman’s vaginal opening after childbirth (sometimes without her consent) to supposedly make her vagina tighter.
This practice is highly unethical and can cause serious physical and psychological harm. By dispelling the myth of vaginal looseness and calling attention to harmful practices like the husband stitch, we can work towards creating a culture that values and respects women's bodies and sexuality.
Check out this TikTok where I talk about the husband stitch.
You've probably heard the term "loose vagina" thrown around in pop culture, porn, or even among your peers. But did you know that the idea of having a "loose" vagina is a myth?
Let's start with the basics: your vagina is not a muscle. It's a flexible tube that connects your uterus to the outside of your body, and its size and shape can vary depending on factors like age, hormones, and sexual activity. However, the muscles surrounding and supporting your vagina — collectively known as your pelvic floor — can become weak or damaged over time.
This is where the idea of a "loose" vagina comes in. Some people believe that if a woman has had multiple sexual partners or given birth vaginally, her vagina will become stretched out and less pleasurable for both partners during sex. FALSE.
In fact, the opposite may be true. A healthy, strong pelvic floor can actually enhance sexual pleasure and reduce the risk of urinary or fecal incontinence, pelvic organ prolapse, and other pelvic floor disorders. Conversely, a weakened pelvic floor can cause these issues and contribute to sexual dysfunction.
So, how can you keep your pelvic floor healthy? Here are some tips:
Remember, there's no such thing as a "loose" vagina — these are not tips for getting a tighter vagina, but they will improve pelvic floor dysfunction! Your pelvic floor is a complex system of muscles, ligaments, and tissues that can be strengthened and supported with the right care. By prioritizing your pelvic health, you can improve your quality of life and enjoy a happy, fulfilling sex life at any age.
Share this blog with anyone that has been given misinformation, is embarrassed or ashamed to get help for pelvic floor issues, or wants to heal and recover from birth.
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